This sleep regression has me thinking about baby and kid sleep... and reflecting on how hard dealing with sleep has been for us in the past year and a half.
I have done everything you're "supposed to do" and "not supposed to do" with these two kiddos. Our various sleeping arrangements over the past year and a half include:
-swaddled in bassinets
-swaddled in swings
-co-sleeping in bed
-co-sleeping in chair
-rocking to sleep
-nursing to sleep
-sleeping in pack & plays
-sleeping half the night in bed with us
-sleeping the whole night in bed with us
-sleeping in pack & plays with each other (very very briefly)
And every single decision I stressed and stressed about! Which is crazy.
I understand the need for safe baby sleep and I know that sleeping is really important for development and health. But what I don't thinks is helpful (or true) is those that insist your baby or child not sleeping well is due to something YOU are doing wrong or that it means something is wrong with your child.
So many people are struggle with infant sleep! I firmly believe it is because all infants and small children were not designed to sleep 12 hour stretches. I know it happens with some, but for many it just doesn't happen- no matter how hard you try or how much you stress about it. And I do believe sleep training can help some infants/children sleep better, but not all of them.
So this sleep regression has been different. I have changed my attitude about it and found that we are doing what works best for us all to get the most sleep. Right now what works best is having Little Miss go to sleep with me and my husband and then moving to the nursery or guest bed as Little Man wakes up.... and we are making it through (with a little extra coffee in the mornings).
This change in attitude has been good for all of us. I am not worried that I am starting bad sleep habits that will "ruin" my children. I am taking care of their needs while still getting enough sleep for me to function. And I know this time will be short- I will look back and wonder where these precious years went.
I am not judging those who sleep train (I did it too and I feel it was necessary for us at the time) but I do encourage those struggling with sleep to take a step back and know that your kid will be fine no matter how you chose to deal with their sleep and that sleep troubles and sleep regressions are perfectly normal!!
Thanks for Reading,